It's the thought that counts...

Or is it?
I generally put thought into a gift when I buy it and it doesn't really matter the price as long as it's something I think the person would like and can use at some point.
I've recently have a few disagreements with people and I've noticed the common thing I got reminded about was "Remember when I bought you that gift" or "Remember when I did that for you" So really, how does that win you any points in the argument? If I for whatever had a argument with someone I really cared about, I would not bring up stupid shit like that but instead make it clear why I want them in my life. Why I can't afford to lose them. Not some superficial argument, that probably just shows to you once again why it is that this person should not be in your life.
I have few friends that I would do anything for and I'd rather have very few of them than have hundreds that just are friends with me for some quota to fulfill on their lists.
It should always be the thought that counts and not keeping count of the things you've done for someone else.

Comments

  1. MarioNovember 13, 2010 at 5:09 PM

    RIGTH, the Quality of your friends count and not the QUANTITY!

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  2. JoelDecember 7, 2010 at 7:05 PM

    Your statement raises the keystone of true giving; no strings. I've struggled with feeling unappreciated because of a lack of reciprocation to some act of kindness I showed. Unfortunately, the rules of giving prevent me from bringing it up. The moment you say, "remember that thing I did...that gift I got you, etc" is the moment you've missed the entire spirit of giving.

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  3. GDecember 7, 2010 at 7:32 PM

    I don't think you're alone in feeling somewhat unappreciated, but that defeats the whole purpose of giving. I have felt that way at some point, we all do. But it's when they remind u of when they did this or that for u, that u realize the type of friends you have.

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